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When senior Kelsey Ryland served as a Peer Advisor (PA) for two
years, she said the topic of abuse rarely came up in discussion
with the women on her floors. She did not equate the lack of
discussion to the idea that violence against women does not occur
on the SPU campus. Rather, she saw this as a sign that something
needed to be changed.
"I think we have some circumstances that happen on our campus
that make it not feel like a safe place to talk about these
issues," she said. "[People] don't think it can happen to
Christians or think that if you really love each other in a godly
way then abuse won't happen, but it does."
Ryland and the other core leaders of Sophia, SPU's gender
equality club, saw the SPU campus needed a place where taboo topics
such as domestic violence and rape could be openly addressed. With
that in mind, they designed Violence Against Women Awareness Week
to create an atmosphere of discussion and, hopefully, healing.
The Rape Abuse Incest National Network (RAINN) reported that one
in four women on a college campus is a victim of abuse. Abigail
Stahl, a senior and a leader of Sophia, said just because SPU is a
Christian campus does not mean that there are no instances of
abuse.
"There really is no reason why SPU should be any different, so
that likely means that there is a lot of underreporting going on,
which is concerning in and of itself," Stahl said. "It's very
undercover in settings like this, and even in a lot of college
settings it is, but particularly going back to the whole Christian
school environment. It's just a very taboo topic and it's very
painful and very uncomfortable."
In discussing the week, the core leaders of Sophia, four women,
found that, within their group, they fulfilled the RAINN
statistic.
"Realizing that within our group, one in four is represented
just makes it real to us," said Beebe Sharkey, a senior and a
leader of Sophia. The leaders want to make sure people in abusive
situations feel empowered or safe to identify it and seek help,
Sharkey said
The series of events began last night with a forum on intimate
partner abuse lead by Andrea Steele, a programs' assistant for
Salvation Army Domestic Violence Programs.
In designing the events that will continue throughout the week,
the Sophia leaders wanted to address other issues that lead to
violence against women.
Tonight, a discussion of pornography and the violence that takes
place within the subject matter will take place at 7 p.m.
"One of the issues with pornography is that it creates
unrealistic expectations of men and women and the way they behave
in both society and sexual situations," Stahl said.
Tomorrow night, a discussion and video regarding the violence
that comes through popular media, such as music videos, will take
place at 7:30 p.m.
Both tonight's and tomorrow night's events will be held in
Demaray Hall 360.
Friday will be a day of remembrance and prayer for victims of
abuse and violence. A prayer vigil is planned in the Alexander
Chapel from 4:30 to 5:30 p.m.
"You don't have to be a victim to take part in this week,"
Ryland said. "We will all probably know someone in our [lives] who
has been a victim of violence and abuse."
While the focus of the week is on violence against women, the
leaders of Sophia said that this is not a week just for women.
"The week is not to make men feel like attackers," Ryland said.
"It is a way to empower men to be proactive and enable them to stop
violence and rape."
Ultimately, Sharkey said she hopes that having a week of
discussion and awareness will lead to help and healing for people
who are victims.
"Sometimes people don't know it is an abusive situation until
there is a name attached to it," Sharkey said.
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